Porn In The Bedroom?

Hello everyone, This is the second edition of our new column, which seeks to demystify the issue of sex being a taboo subject among us Nigerian and Africans.

This column will feature regular sex tips and sex advice for women from our resident expert, Iheoma Obibi of Intimate Pleasures.

 

Dear tw Magazine: My partner recently suggested we watch pornography together and leave it on while we have sex? I feel he suggested it because he’s bored of having sex with me and needs the extra stimulation to turn him on. Should I be worried? I know it’s silly but I don’t want to feel like I’m sharing my time with him with the women on the TV — Rachel, 27

Dear Rachel: As consenting adults, there is nothing wrong in watching porn if you both desire to do so, but if watching porn with him and then leaving it on, makes you feel uncomfortable then you should be able to say so. However, clearly there are issues here and I am wondering about how you both communicate with each other. Have you expressed your concerns about his need for additional stimulation with him? Are you both being sexually stimulated enough or is there something lacking in how you both engage in foreplay and sex itself. I do not think you should be worried, but I do think you should sit down and share with him your concerns about the added stimulation and how it makes you feel.